Ya know, sometimes, I can be a real
ass snob cotton-headed-ninny-muggins when it comes to my theology.
At some point, between being accused of “lacking passion”, or being “un-Biblical”, or even worse, “un-Christian”, I began defending my theology by attacking the theology of others.
And in many instances I tend to become as “holier-than-thou” as I accuse others of acting.
Maybe it was because he used the word “hate.”
Maybe it was because I found out he went to a conservative mega-church with a controversial pastor.
Maybe it was because I found him to be biblically/historically inaccurate.
Maybe it’s because his anger against the church reminded me of my own struggle with the church over the last several years.
Maybe it was because I was jealous of his rapping skills.
But I was looking for a fight – and the more I read about Jeff Bethke, the more I’m convinced, he was not.
I wish I would’ve appreciated Jeff’s gift to poetically raise issues in a way that could’ve gotten my own students talking about the benefits and challenges of religion like Brian Kirk did.
And I definitely wish I would’ve chosen to engage Jeff in conversation like Kevin DeYoung did.
In an Email exchange between him and DeYoung, Bethke wrote:
I just wanted to say I really appreciate your article man. It hit me hard. I’ll even be honest and say I agree 100%. God has been working with me in the last 6 months on loving Jesus AND loving his church. For the first few years of walking with Jesus (started in ’08) I had a warped/poor paradigm of the church and it didn’t build up, unify, or glorify His wife (the Bride). If I can be brutally honest I didn’t think this video would get much over a couple thousand views maybe, and because of that, my points/theology wasn’t as air-tight as I would’ve liked. If I redid the video tomorrow, I’d keep the overall message, but would articulate, elaborate, and expand on the parts where my words and delivery were chosen poorly… My prayer is my generation would represent Christ faithfully and not swing to the other spectrum….thankful for your words and more importantly thankful for your tone and fatherly like grace on me as my elder. Humbled. Blessed. Thankful for painful growth. Blessings.
Grace and Peace,
I’m not saying I was wrong in what I said, but I sure was wrong (and obnoxious) in how I said it.
I think DeYoung says it best:
A friend wrote to me yesterday and said, “This is a good test for both Jefferson and for yourself. Is he the kind of guy who would be willing to write a critic with humility? And did you write the piece in such a way that the one being criticized would feel comfortable chatting with you?” I hope we are passing that test. Through the years I haven’t always aced this kind of exam.
I sharpened my teeth alongside people who were willing to listen to and empowered my passionate words but also loved me enough to challenge me to dig deep for truth and clarity.
Shame on me for not taking the opportunity to share that love and challenge with somebody who is clearly both passionate and talented.
I’m not agreeing with everything that Jeff said in his video, and had I given him a chance to dialogue, I would’ve learned that he probably doesn’t either.
Oh if I had a dollar for every time I spoke in ways that misrepresented how I really felt… I wouldn’t need to blog anymore, that’s for sure.
For what it’s worth, Jeff, thank you for using your gifts to raise a conversation about the church in a way that gets my students both talking and listening. I believe that you have talents, gifts, and a passion that all seem to be ferociously ignited by the grace of Christ.
I’m sorry that I did not extend you that grace.
I am reminded that what makes you and I, and anybody else different can either divide us or bring us closer together. Our different views can either tear us away or bring us closer to a clearer understanding of our God.
That’s what makes religion dangerous.
And that’s what makes religion beautiful.